Monday, September 28, 2009

79


my father would have been 79 last week. as a simple gesture of remembrance, we went to the beach to mark the occasion. holding a stalk of white crysanthemum, we each said a short prayer for him before tossing it to the sea.

it's uncanny. we each tossed the flower at different times & yet, as they float away with the waves, they seemed to come together. as if in support for each other.

like family.

14 comments:

suituapui said...

Why? Where is he buried?...In the home village in China? Guess that's why you all can't go and visit him in the cemetery.

JoMel said...

that's really sweet. :)

Superman said...

Family is the most important for us all!

wenn said...

white chrysanthemum..i hvn't seen it before..for rememberance..

doc said...

STP,

he was cremated, & in accordance to his final wish, his ashes dispersed into the Straits of Johor.

doc said...

Jo,

thanks.

we undertake to make this our annual ritual as a mark of respect & remembrance.

doc said...

Superman,

how very true!

doc said...

Wenn,

as this was our 1st time, we asked the florist which flower would be appropriate for remembrance, she suggested either white chrysanthemum or lily.

i checked out wikipedia & it confirmed.

iml said...

The dearly departed should not completely be forgotten and Birthdate is a good way to remember them on.

doc said...

Iml,

i whole-heartedly agree.

reanaclaire said...

as for my husband, i visit him twice per year.. one during his death anniversary and during all souls day.. one in April and November, 6 months apart..

doc said...

Claire,

good gesture!

my father's passing & his birthday is just a month apart. we haven't decided if we'll do both next year.

msforty5 said...

nice gesture to remember him, as time passes only memories linger.

doc said...

ms45,

it uncanny that after a person passes on, you only remember the fond memories.