Wednesday, March 10, 2010

not meant to be?

it was a difficult decision.

a nurse colleague resigned from the hospital to work in saudi arabia, where she will be paid at least 5 times more than her last job. she is due to fly off this weekend. her husband had also resigned from his job so that he can look after the children.

a few days ago, he developed a bleed in his brain. it was huge & was removed in an emergency surgery. he is still unconscious & things don't look good. if he were still employed, he would have received benefits that would have covered his medical expenses but that's academic now. he may have to be transferred to a govt hospital due to the escalating costs.

sometimes, life deals us a cruel twist. one day, all is hunky-dory & the next, our whole world seems to collapse right before our very eyes. what is one to do in such dire circumstances?

i don't have the answer. but i imagine her job in saudi would have to be put on hold until her husband's outcome can be determined. if it includes rehabilitation, it could stretch to months or even years, & recovery may still not be complete. besides, the children need taking care of.

it's common for us to organise things & make good plans that will benefit the family & possibly others. but if these don't fit into the Great Scheme of Things, they will not materialise, for reasons our mortal minds cannot comprehend. no matter how hard we strive to make it happen.

because some things are just not meant to be.

i pray for my colleague to have the mental strength to go through this ordeal & hope that a greater good will come out of this unfortunate event.

22 comments:

missyc said...

I feel for her, real challenge indeed at her turning point in life. Hope things will turn out alright. Have faith in govt hospital pull some strings if need be, step on people toes to get what needs to be done as only the strong will survive.

zewt said...

she he recovers soon... completely...

doc said...

Missyc,

everything seems to be in a limbo for her now but i doubt if she would adopt the the strong-willed approach.

in the meantime, we're passing a collection bag around.

doc said...

Zewt,

the whole dept is solidly behind the couple.

eugene said...

Yup,, like what you said,you can plan and plan,but ultimately sometimes life can be funny to us,,,,

god bless

missyc said...

fyi, if her husband has contributed to Sosco continuously for more than 1 or 2yrs, even though he has resigned, he is entitled to claim under Skim ILAT for medical reasons. Many Sosco contributors are not aware of their entitlement.

doc said...

Eugene,

hope life is good to you & your family. God bless!

doc said...

Missyc,

thanks for the info. i'll pass it on to my colleague.

iml said...

Life is sometimes so unpredictable.

doc said...

Iml,

can we make it more predictable by trusting in God?

Anonymous said...

This is so sad to hear...

May God touch the family and the husband be healed quickly. Nothing's too big for Him.

Amen.

ilene said...

DOC, I wish them ... sorry, I really don't know what to say here. Perhaps God has better plans for them as only He can foresee what the future holds for them.

doc said...

Anonymous,

thanks for the prayer. amen.

doc said...

Ilene,

thanks for your kind concern.

Bengbeng said...

i can feel for this family... an unexpected twist of events. we can only but pray that things will work out in a positive manner

doc said...

Beng,

we all can identify with this because at some time or other, we were in a similar situation.

but we trust in God.

LX said...

Reminds me of my colleague here who was lamenting about the healthcare system in the States (she's American). She was saying that her family has never been to the hospital their entire life. So happened her dad quit his company to start his own.. during the 'buffer' time, they thought to just gamble and not get medical insurance coverage for the time being. Mana tahu.... her brother got into some problem and was hospitalised, her mum's car crashed.. etc.. the cost went up to more than USD10k, she believed. So much that her dad didn't even want to tell her. Life is indeed unpredictable..

Mei Teng said...

Trusting God doesn't make life predictable. But He is the hope that never disappoints and the anchor for the soul :)

doc said...

LX,

that's unfortunate but that's the way it is in the US. almost everything needs to be insured. you must have heard of the hands of surgeons & musicians being insured for millions.

yes, you don't know what's around the corner of life.

doc said...

Mei Teng,

well said.

reanaclaire said...

oh doc, what a twist of mishappenings! so unfortunate to happen at that moment, wrong timing..
we can plan everything, from A to Z, but in the end, God decides..
Unexpected things do happen..
yes, at this time, she needs all the comfort and strength and no one can give that to her except our God..

doc said...

Claire,

it's really difficult for her because the husband has been transferred to HKL & still in ICU.

it will be some time before things get better, if at all.