Friday, September 30, 2011

love transcends all

now that the dreaded ghost month is over, expect a lot of happy occasions, like marriages, house-warming, etc to take place.

2 nurses are tying the knot soon. theirs & the grooms' families seemed happy.

a friend's daughter will also be getting hitched but the parents aren't too pleased because this one needs to transcend racial & religious boundaries. it's never happened in the family before so it came as a shock when we found out about it.

but the girl is a matured adult, trained in a top UK university & holding a decent corporate job, so presumably she's well aware of the implications of her decision.

circumstances like this often remind me of Samson who chose to marry a Philistine girl, even after his parents questioned his choice.

sometimes life just don't turn out the way we envisioned but that doesn't mean it's all bad. make lemonade, we're urged. make do with what we already have & build on that.

after all, we're also told, of faith, hope & love - the greatest is still love.

happy wedded bliss, everyone!

24 comments:

LX said...

Everyone left right centre all getting engaged or married!! Tsk tsk tsk.

reanaclaire said...

Yes, weddings are in the air.. but so far I didnt get any "summons." Not cheap to go for a wedding dinner though.. hahaha... but then, it is a joyous occassion so once awhile we must share the joy with the newly weds!

SooY said...

hmmm...she doesn't have to...errm, "change her religion" i hope? i know my easy going and quiet husband would go absolutely ballistic if that scenario ever happens to our daughter.

doc said...

LX,

there's a time & place for every thing under the sun.

keep the faith & God bless!

doc said...

you can't say it's not cheap because it's only (hopefully!!)
once a lifetime.

doc said...

Soo,

yes, she has to ..erm... change her name, religious belief & lifestyle but she is guaranteed a great future, if you know what i mean.

for myself, i'm ok with inter-racial marriages but i expect my kids to keep the faith.

The Tame Lion said...

I see...
Nice post!

Yvonne Foong said...

Doc, I don't understand something. Inter-cultural marriages take place all the time in the geneerations before mine. I have met many muslim aunties and uncles marrying people of other races and religions. How come when it came to my generation, inter-cultural marriages became sensitive?

doc said...

Tame Lion,

thanks.

doc said...

Yvonne,

we saw each other as one in the old days. govt policies have driven a wedge between the different communities & over the years, we lost the muhibbah spirit, so instead of we, it became us & them.

i truly missed the old days!

Small Kucing said...

Chinese calendar 10th month is the most auspicious month to "saman" people :p

doc said...

Small Kucing,

not surprisingly, i already expecting a saman.

Soo said...

Having studied at a top UK uni, I first thought she's going to marry a gwailo. But on second thought.... heck, why would the parents get so upset over a gwailo son in law! Hope the girl knows what she's getting herself into. Literally changing her identity and life for "love". Sigh.

doc said...

Soo,

there were a few failed relationships before the current one. if it were a gwailo, the parents won't be THAT upset, but he's not. he's a local & his family is very well-to-do.

perhaps age is not on her side, hence her decision.

Yvonne Foong said...

She'd have to convert to the religiob? I wonder if the aunties and uncles of older generations had to convert.

doc said...

Yvonne,

yes, she has to convert, & so did all the uncles/aunties of old. it may have been more acceptable then because we were truly "muhibbah."

Soo said...

Reminds me of a local TV personality who converted to marry the young & handsome NAZA CEO. Irresistible, I can imagine.

doc said...

Soo,

people generally, like water, would follow the path of least resistance.

i wonder if this TV personality has been called names for doing that.

eugene said...

Just a note of saying "thank you" ever so much

doc said...

Eugene,

you're welcomed!

missyc said...

A thorny & touchy issue esp in bolehland, where its mandatory to convert. Having muhibbah relatives helps me see a bigger picture, of those days and now.. During HangLiPo time (if its politically or historically correct) the inter marriage offsprings are 'lumped as Peranakan' but not today. Once I posed Q&A to the male chauvinist party when they kept harping on dwindling population of their race, they chose to remain silent.

doc said...

MissyC,

those were truly muhibbah days which we are unlikely to experience again; we have gone too far down the slippery slope.

the issue of dwindling population of that particular race is a direct result of the govt's socio-political policies, which the said party is a part of, but did not have the will to avert.

Unicorn Girl said...

Whatever it was , Samson did not loose his faith in God - only in women :0

doc said...

UG,

he lost his hair, dignity & life. the women sure did him in.