Tuesday, June 18, 2013

a million tear-drops....


I see it ever so often, esp in ICU......

patient dies.....

the family gathers around......

shedding tears.....

a million of them.....

it's like a grand send-off.....

but yet, they are imploring that the dear & beloved remains a tad longer....

but the ECG doesn't lie.....

people show emotions in different ways & in varying degrees.....

when my father passed away, i just shed a tear......

maybe two......

now, it makes me wonder how many drops of tears will flow for me.....

if any.

12 comments:

Ng Zhe Theng said...

these are heart wrenching experiences, we dont express it out, but we emotionally feel it deep down in our mind and heart.

ilene ong said...

Isn't it normal for women to cry more than men?

TZ said...

I know it's very difficult to accept when the person that we loved passed on... But no matter how we still have to accept it and move on with our life.

Yvonne Foong said...

Wah Lau! Your blog is mobile friendly' Did you know that? Try surfing your Own blog with a phone and see.

when my dad died, T did not cry in the hospital. I only Wanted him to have a smooth and Safe transition. As you know, the final moments can stretch Indefinitely, Prolonging his struggle.

But I cried during the wake service, I am an only child. So I Was the one the pay respects throughout the Wake and funeral and the one to send him off,

It Was an honor. There is the term bittersweet. Is there a Word like bitterhonor?

doc said...

Zhe Theng,

therein lies the paradox. some just don't cry easily, but psychologists advocate the outward expression of emotions instead of keeping them in, thereby risking an explosion of all previously concealed & suppressed feelings.

doc said...

Ilene,

no, it's not, although i've seen men cry like a baby!!

doc said...

TZ,

true - by all means grieve, but there must be a time frame to move on eventually.

doc said...

Yvonne,

it is indeed an honour to be able to send off a dear & beloved who has passed on. closure - that's what a wake/funeral is for & we all should get on with our lives after that, with fond & lingering memories of what had been.

MiChi said...

Maybe we should look forward for how many "smile" will pray for us when we are leaving this world... and entering into eternity

doc said...

MiChi,

yes, and i wonder also what will be said of me for eulogy.

Andrea Boult said...

This is the thing...I find it hard to cry when someone close to me passes on. But I cry buckets when I watch some soppy stuff on tv. Aiyoyo! something must be very wrong with me.

doc said...

Andrea,

the answer is obvious:

you want to put a bold front in public, that's why look strong although you're wailing in your heart; of course, in the privacy of home, you cry buckets in front of the TV.