Friday, December 12, 2008

change #1 : the decision

changes are generally well-received if they are for the better. but if we have to move out of our comfort zone to accomodate it, then we may confront change with mixed feelings.

not having lived with my parents since leaving home for varsity, it took some time to face reality when they decided to move out of JB, where they were born & bred, to come live with us. they have been stubbornly independent all this time & i think 2 events finally prompted them to do so:

1) my father is gradually deteriorating from parkinsonism, which has afflicted him since 2002. my mother, being the primary care-giver, is getting on in years as well, & the Lord has blessed her richly with good health & a cheerful spirit;

2) the next-door neighbour has offered to buy over the house in JB - the same one we've lived in for over 40years, which of course held abundant memories for all of us, both better & sweet.

they will move at the end of this month. it will be a change for all of us. but then, perhaps it's not so much about changes as it is about responsibility.

and filial piety.

If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 1 Tim 5:8


Anonymous said...

I've learned that one should invest in one's family first & in one's career second.

doc said...


that's in an ideal world but a lot of other factors come into play that may hinder the noble act.

Kyels said...

Family comes first because they are the closest to a person. Easier said than done but if we don't try, we won't know the outcome, right?


doc said...


spot on!