Wednesday, June 01, 2011

i hate love

got this link from Jemima's blog. the book sounds like an interesting read & there sure are things you don't learn in school. i like this one in particular:

"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love."
Neil Gaiman (The Kindly Ones)

doesn't this just feel like it's talking about you?


house-tai said...

damn. yes.

and even though i am now married to another person (whom i do dearly love for the past 9 yrs), i still have dreams occasionally about him...and i always feel so happy in those dreams. why ah, doc?

doc said...


escapism, like watching Kung-Fu Panda or Pirates of the Carribean. we are happy in those few hours as we escape from the real world.

i can associate with you. like you're married for 9 years, surely sometimes you wonder what could have been had you made other choices. but this doesn't constitute betrayal or unfaithfulness; just keep it at escapism & not let it become an obssession.

happy dreaming!

Yan said...

Exactly! Only fools fall in love!

iml said...

So right I hate love too. But then what's life when you have never felt the intensity of being in love.

Yvonne Foong said...

I think guys hate it more since they are less resilient.

doc said...


not exactly because occasionally you fall in love for the 1st time with a really nice (God-fearing?) person & you live happily ever after.

you still get heartbreaks but not the hostage-scene or glass-splinter types described in the book.

doc said...


who was it who said that it's better to have loved & lost than never having to love at all??

doc said...


love takes hostages. i don't believe the effect is gender-based.

Yvonne Foong said...

Some deal with it better than others.

doc said...


true, & again, not gender-biased.